You are more than your personality. The soul is having an experience thru you. You have free will to do as you wish in every moment. To hang on to pain, resentment, anger, revenge, etc. Or, you can forgive and let go of those thought forms that have vibrations that make the body ill. Forgiving is not for those who have done whatever...... It is for you. Let go of the heaviness, you don't have to carry it any longer.